Intentional Connection During the Holidays

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Ok let's be real marriage

tidbit fam...the holidays show up and suddenly we’re all out here acting like modern-day Martha Stewarts. We’re trying to get the Christmas tree looking just right, coordinating matching pajamas(which are crazy expensive btw), hosting all the things, traveling for that social-media worthy photo, wrapping gifts like we’re in a competitive sport, and basically doing the most so our kids can have memories they probably won’t even recall.

And somewhere in the middle of all that chaos, we forget to check in with the person we actually said “I do” to. Not the “you good?” drive-by…but the “hey, how are WE doing, for real?” type of check-in. Because busyness isn’t what disconnects couples, we're all out here in these streets being "busy" it’s losing touch with each other while life gets loud...inserts heavy sigh!

So Here’s the Tidbit...

Take one tiny step this week toward intentional connection. Not a whole date night. Not a full production with reservations and childcare...just one simple step towards a deeper connection. Let's call this "Your holiday relationship hack" a small intentional moment that says, “I still choose you.” Sounds like a hallmark card...I know lol but I like it! Don't make me be corny by myself.

Ok, so let's NOT overthink this, just go back to the beginning. Think about something y’all used to do that brought laughter, or just good energy… and do that again.

• Late-night food runs.

• Driving around looking at lights.

• Cooking together.

• Dancing in the kitchen to that 90s R&B playlist that always hits.

  
  

Those tiny moments aren’t random, they’re the things that keep your connection strong. They're the things you enjoy doing only with your person.

Not Sure Where to Start?

Say less...y'all know I'm here for it and ready with a list I put together of intentional, easy, realistic connection ideas you can use right away:

Holiday Relationship Hacks (Your Quick-Start List)

• Ride around looking at Christmas lights

• Late-night hot chocolate or coffee run

• Dance in the kitchen to 90s R&B or old-school jams

• Cook a meal together

• Build a gingerbread house

• Watch a throwback holiday movie

• Go Christmas window shopping

• Take a sunset walk

• Shower together

• Exchange five-minute massages

• Couples pedicure date

• Pajama-only evening with snacks

• No-phones-for-one-hour cuddle time

• Write each other a short “I appreciate you” note

• Recreate your first date at home

• Make a playlist of songs meaningful to your early days

• Sit by the tree and share your favorite memory from this year

• Try a holiday dessert bake-off

• Go walk through HomeGoods(insert "y'alls" store) “just because”

• Night drive with music and conversation

• Take a quick walk and talk around the neighborhood

  
  

Start small. Keep it light. Start where you are and make it intentional.

If this was good and just what you needed, I encourage you to stay tuned, stay connected, and keep building this marriage community by sharing, liking, and inviting other couples to the journey! I'm praying for each of you.

Until next time,

XO, Shallondra